The Person You Hate is Actually...

Hey Lifemaxxer,

Ever met someone and instantly despised them?

Didn’t even matter what they said — something about them just rubbed you wrong, and you couldn’t put your finger on it.

Let me guess:

Maybe something looked like a red flag, felt like intuition, or just felt off — their vibe, their energy, their tone. 

Sometimes it’s your instinct guiding you, but most of the time?

It's the complete opposite.  

The truth is, the real reason you hate someone has nothing to do with them at all. 

It has to do with you. 

Each time you feel a slight twinge of resentment towards someone else, it's not your instinct guiding you; it's a hidden piece of yourself clawing to get out. 

That’s shadow projection.

You toss something out of your psyche, and it comes crawling back through someone else.

• You exile the shame and then spot “arrogance” in others.

• Suppress the anger and suddenly everyone’s an asshole.

• Bury the fear, and now the world’s full of cowards.

But It’s not just psychology, it's energy alchemy.

Because every emotion you suppress doesn’t just hide in your mind… it distorts your field.

And when the shadow is ignored, it doesn’t vanish — it becomes toxic.

Loud.

Reactive.

And instead of owning it, you throw it at your partner, your friends—you try to destroy it in others because you never learned how to forgive it in yourself.

And this isn’t just theory — Carl Jung once said:

“75% of what we see in others… is our own projection.”

Which means most of our reality is just us, reflected back to us.

Want to know what you’re projecting?

It’s easy… just follow the pull.

• What pisses you off more than it should?
  

• What feelings do you judge in others but secretly fear in yourself?
  

• Who do you envy or mock?
  

Follow what bothers you and you’ll find what’s broken inside you.

Here’s the magic, though:

When you face it, it softens.

When you accept it, it integrates.

And when it integrates?

You get the energy back, you stop leaking power, and you feel whole because you are.

When I’m facing my toughest emotions and inner struggles, I have something unique that helps me stay grounded — a reminder to stay connected to all of me, flaws included.

→Take a look at what I use 

Forgiveness starts with accepting the parts you tried to avoid.

Stay vital,

Orpheus